You put yourself first. You have no shame in doing so. And you know what? It’s about damn time.
It’s okay to put yourself first.
For years, you’ve thought that a ‘good woman’ makes sacrifices for the benefit of her family, her friends, her boss, etc. You feel guilty when you take care of yourself. But what happens when, after all of your caring for everyone else, you figuratively stumble and fall? Who will be there to take care of you?
No, you’re not responsible for everyone else.
No, you’re not narcissistic to want to put the focus on yourself.
No, life doesn’t revolve around everyone else.
No, your free time doesn’t have to be devoted to anyone else.
So with that in mind, you go right ahead and . . .
go to the gym
sing in the shower
get that full body hot stone massage
ride a bike
dance like nobody’s watching
cuddle with your dog
have a glass of wine just because
go window shopping
smile at yourself in the mirror
or do whatever.
It’s called self-care, not self-ish. You’re a midlife woman. It’s time.
Continue to put yourself first.
This is so powerful! Putting our “oxygen masks” on first is the only way to be able to give our best selves to others. I am finally practicing regular self-care as a role model for my family, friends, and others. Thanks for the reminder to everyone who needs to hear it!
Julie, I LOVE the way you bring in the analogy of putting our oxygen masks on first before helping anyone else. So incredibly fitting! Thanks for kicking off the conversation. I’ll be sending you a copy of my self-care guide!
So right. And it’s not self-centered either!
That’s right, Margaret — not self-centered at all. Would you like to receive a copy of my self-care guide that I’m giving away to everyone who comments on this post?